Am I Handling This the Right Way?

Question:



I have this huge crush on a classmate of mine, he's 1 year younger than I am, we're both believers, though different (I'm catholic, he's evangelist), but we still understand each other really good.

Last year, we got really close, and rumours about us dating started to spread around the school campus, we never "dated", though it was obvious that the way we behaved was like the one couples do ( we'd meet a lot outside school, I'd attend his piano performances, and he my dance performances, ect.)

But this year things started to change, we've been getting apart really slowly, and it seems the I got competition. At the beginning I was fine with it, but after a while, I got scared, of losing him like that. I told him how I felt (it was a simple "I like you", I didn't want to scare him too much), and he replied with an "You're special" and a hug, and that was it. Summer vacation came and I didn't see him for a month, and after we came back, everything was worse. Now, we barely talk, only school stuff (though he still asks me how I feel when I look really down), we still go out (to classical music concerts, most of the time) but it's not the same, we talk only about unrelevant stuff, and I can't shut my feelings off, since I have to see him every single day. I've tried to avoid him, but I can't, everytime he asks for a favor I do it, I smile and do it, I'm so helpless! I truly believe I messed it up with the confession. Am I handling the situation the right way?




Answer:



I just want to say that I understand how you feel and that things don't go how you might wish they did. It's healthy to want to have somebody and it's great that this person is a believer (that's the way God wants it). What I would have to say is that you are worrying about something though that is completely in God's control. You might look at this as a situation where you are missing out on an opportunity, it may be that God sees this as preparing you for a better opportunity. It could very well be that God has someone who is a better fit for you out there and He is steering you toward his direction. Emotions are strong, but they are not what God wants us to live by. The best thing to do is give this situation over to God knowing that He has the best for you in mind. Romans 8:28 says that all things work together for the good of those who are the called to His purposes.

Don't try and make something happen, just let God take care of the situation. Just take a breath, hand this over to God, and move forward. You'll be surprised at how freeing it is.

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