Friends

Question:



Ok, my sister is having a real hard time with friends. I've tried to give her advice cause I went through the same thing in elementary.

This girl was her best friend at school but now she just isn't. She is trying hard to be nice and not bossy. I know, well I really know that some girls are very harsh and some are forgiving with other girls at a young age. I feel bad for her because I remember how it felt when I was in her grade and no one will play with you at recess or sit with you at lunch. Somtimes it gets better as you get older but I know a couple of kids who were hated through elementary and in middleschool now. Any advice you could give her?



Answer:



People learn at a very young age how not to accept someone or what it's like not to be accepted. I wish it didn't have to be that way because all that anyone really wants from other people is just to be accepted. The best thing you can be as an encouragement to your sister is to love and accept her for who she is. Do what you can to show her that you love her for who she is on the inside and not what she can make herself appear to be on the outside. When people reject someone most of the time it's for what they see on the outside and all those things are very superficial.

Ultimately, your sister needs to see that who she is on the inside is what matters. People can try to get her down, but the only one who can keep her down is herself. If she learns to accept who she is and make those who love her that way as her friends, she will develop the right and healthy view of people and people who look after vanity won't bother her, as a matter of fact they will be the ones who are missing out.


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