Abour Relationships

Question:



I was in a relationship with my ex-boyfriend for over a year. Throughout the relationship I treated terribly but he was in love with me. Now it's vice versa. I apologized to him but he now treats me terribly. Recently, he told me he didn't want anything to do with me. He is now in a relationship with my friend. At first in our relationship he was VERY close to God. I feel like I pulled him away. Now I'm trying to get close to God. Do you have any advice on how to rely on God to lead us back together, with us both loving each other? Or any advice on broken hearts?



Answer:



The thing about following God that you have to understand is that God doesn’t want us to draw closer to Him with an expected result. When we do that, we are telling Him that we want His hand on our lives but we still hold onto our own desires. If you desire to draw closer to the Lord, it will have to be only for the purpose of knowing Him better and walking in the life He has given you. When we come to Him, we have to come to Him on His terms. Jesus said that before we could even be His disciple, we had to deny ourselves. Now understand that I am not saying this to discourage you from seeking the Lord. He wants us to seek Him far more than we desire to know Him. He created us for this relationship. But know that His terms are the only terms for walking this way.


The best thing you can do now is accept the situation you are currently in right now. We always receive the fruit of the actions that we sow. Now the Lord will give you the grace to walk through this as you look to Him. But understand that in the beginning, you took a course of actions that came to this result, even though now you would rather it not be this way. Give this time and focus on your walk with the Lord. Friendships and relationships work both ways. He has to be ready to respond. Respect his stand and give him space. It may turn in time, but don’t put your hope in that. Your hope is meant to be placed in the Lord.

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